Love must not Change(Seven ways of unconditional Love)
LOVE SHOULD NOT CHANGE
Nothing is new under the earth again. Things have change seriously. Should we say it is a painful Gladness to be in this presence world where love change to lust. Where is today's marriage? What has she turn herself into? Why is Love struggling in the heart of marriage? Is she to be 'M' or to be 'E'? Hmm...
Love should continue to be unconditional the way she has always be.
Furthermore, many youth of now a days only practice what they don't know the meaning, usage, important and impact to human life and society. According to the word of God in 1Corinthian 13 vs 1-4 that explain the important of Love. Chris Moore said 'Love is to love someone for who they are, Who they were and they will be'.
However, today, it seems, we have an
incredible amount of
expectation of one another.
The idea of unconditional love
seems to have fallen by the
wayside, as more and more of
us want love, but are ill-
prepared to give or even
receive it.
To love someone under any
circumstance is a true test of
unconditional loving, and
although it may seem simple, it
is probably one of the toughest
attributes to possess. (In Evangelist Mike Bamiloye's attribute in celebrating his wife birthday, he explains how they met and the condition she met him. This message will be available on this blog for people to read. His last statement in the message demand an answer to our ways at which we treat Love.)This kind
of love requires an
unconditional love of yourself
first, so you can have the
strength of heart and mind to
give the same to another
human being. This is where
we fall down. Within our
society there seems to be so
much pressure to be perfect
that to love ourselves has
become a pretty hard task to
achieve, but it is the key to
total, unconditional love of all
others. Remember that God gave and shown this Love.
If you’ve never received
unconditional love it can
become hard to then give it
out; however, below are seven
ways you can practice how to
love in this way and truly
change your life.
7 Ways To Practice Unconditional Love
That Will Change
Your Life
1. Love is not how you feel,
it is more about how you
act.
Try to think of love in this way
and you won’t go far wrong. If
you treat love as a feeling,
when you are getting
something from someone else
and then you stop getting it
then your feelings will change
along with your behavior. An
example of this is when you try
to be someone you aren’t, or
perhaps you have to do
something in order to receive
love: these then make love
conditional. However, if you
start to act a certain way and
are not requiring someone else
to be something they are not,
then that love is unconditional.
Your love is not based on what
someone else does or says,
which means you can continue
to act the same way regardless
of how other people behave.
2. Adapt your love to
others.
Love is received and given to
others in many different forms
and, unfortunately, there is not
a ‘one size fits all’ philosophy.
Unconditional love is a
conscious decision you make
every day and in every new
situation that comes along.
There are no rules laid out for
everyone, you apply it person
by person.
3. Love can sometimes be
uncomfortable.
To truly love someone, you
have to be able to take the
rough with the smooth, and in
this instance trying to protect
someone from being
uncomfortable is not a sign of
unconditional love. Pain and
growth are part of life and
shielding them from this is not
love—if you only set out to
make them feel satisfied and
happy all the time you will do
more harm than good!
Unconditional love requires
you to let them experience
pain so that they will find their
own way and grow at their
own pace.
4. Give unconditionally to
yourself, too.
If you are a people pleaser,
which many of us tend to be,
you’ll be more interested in
giving love to others rather
than to yourself. The love you
give to others will not be
unconditional, because you’ll
be allowing how they make
you feel rule how much love
you want to return to them.
This is not unconditional.
However, if you are constantly
pleasing others you are lacking
self-love. So give yourself
unconditional love first, and
the rest will come.
5. Learn forgiveness.
This isn’t about allowing
someone to wipe their feet all
over you; it’s about choosing to
react in a better way, a kinder
way for yourself. If someone
has hurt you or let you down,
choose forgiveness by letting
go of the anger and resentment
you have towards them. How
you act towards a specific
person will change depending
on what has happened, but if
you choose to act lovingly and
not hold on to negative
feelings, you will love them
unconditionally.
6. Show love to those
whom you think don’t
deserve it.
This is great if you have people
around you who are toxic to
you and to others. Normally
when someone else is negative
towards you or about you, it
means there is some lack in
their own life that is
preventing them from truly
loving themselves. If you see
this before you react, and put
yourself in their shoes, it can
help you in the situation
because you know deep inside
it is more to do with them than
with you. It’s here where you
decide to give unconditional
love and give it more
frequently. Being this way will
provide a good pay off for
them, but most importantly, for
you, too.
7. Practice unconditional
love every day.
Try to do this at least once a
day: give something and not be
wanting anything in return. It
can be letting someone
through a door first, giving way
to another car in a traffic jam,
or telling someone you love
them without expecting to hear
it back in return. Do
something every day and I
promise—even though you
don’t want anything in return
—you’ll get a huge amount of
pleasure from just giving
unconditional love.
So how have you been
practicing unconditional love
recently?
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